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That Tinder Date

how a text message I received following a tinder date led to an international body shaming scandal.

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Thanks for the love, Zooey xo
I made international headlines in July 2015 when a blog entry I wrote about an abusive message I received after one date garnered over 500,000 hits worldwide. I was interviewed on radio and held the attention of television audiences in London, UK, Chicago, USA and Melbourne, Australia.
The story has been covered in news outlets making headlines across major cities as far and wide as Russia, India, America, France, West Africa, Australia, Germany, Italy, Estonia, Denmark, Wales, Brazil, Serbia, Ireland and of course my native UK.
I've since written for the Independent, Stylist, Standard Issue, IB Times, and Shortlist about body image, feminism, online dating, and more. 


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THE OPEN LETTER THAT STARTED IT ALL : "TINDER DATE"



Friday, 3 July 2015

Tinder Date.

On Monday I went on a first date with a man I met on Tinder. We met in a pub. After a couple of drinks we moved on to a restaurant. He bought me dinner. We strolled arm in arm on the South Bank. He walked me to the train station, where we kissed. It wasn't earth-shattering, but all in all it was a fairly standard Pleasant Evening. 

The next day, I received the following message from him (be warned, it gets pretty nasty).

Hey Michelle, sorry been super busy at work today hun.

Thanks for a wonderful evening last night. I really enjoyed your company and actually adore you. You're cheeky and funny and just the sort of girl I would love to go out with if only my body and mind would let me. But I fear it won't.

I'm not going to bull***t you... I f***ing adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer.

Shallow? It's not meant to be. It's the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing image, or listen to a piece of music you love, it has that instant reaction in you that makes you crave more. 

So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality (and God...I really, really am), I can't say the same about your figure. So I can sit there and flirt and have the most incredibly fun evening, but I have this awful feeling that when we got undressed my body would let me down. I don't want that to happen baby. I don't want to be lying there next to you, and you asking me why I'm not hard. 

There are certain triggers that fire my imagination into life and your wit and intelligence are the beginning of that process which would inevitably end up in the bedroom. With just one result....

I'm so disappointed in myself Michelle because I've genuinely not felt this way about anyone in ages, but I'm trying to be honest with you without sounding like a total knobhead.

We could be amazing friends, we could flirt and joke and adore each other and.... f*** me... I would marry you like a shot if you were a slip of a girl because what you have in that mind of yours is utterly unique, and I really really love it.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that I'm trying to avoid bigger pain in the future by telling you now so we don't have to go through that embarrassment. I'm a man... With all the red hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man and I'm sure of my own body and its needs.

Please try and forgive me. I adore you xx


It's taken me a few days to sit down and respond. I've been busy. 

Dear Man I Met On Tinder.

I was on another date when I received your message. He returned from the loo to find me in a flood of tears. He was lovely, but baffled, and hasn't been in touch since, funnily enough.

You don't have to fancy me. We all have a good friend who we look at ruefully and think “you're lovely, but you just don't tickle my pickle”. We wish we were attracted to them, but our bodies and our brains don't work like that. And that's fine.

What isn't fine is the fact that, after a few hours in my company, you took the time to write this utterly uncalled-for message. It's nothing short of sadistic. Your tone is saccharine and condescending, but the forensic detail in which you express your disgust at my body is truly grotesque. The only possible objective for writing it is to wound me.

And I'm ashamed to say, for a few moments, it worked. You stirred a dormant fear that every woman who was ever a teenage girl has – that it doesn't matter how funny you are, how clever, how kind, how passionate, how loyal, how determined or adventurous or vibrant – if you're a stone overweight, no one will ever find you desirable.

I like the way I look. I don't look like Charlize Theron, and that's fine - I look like me, and I like myself (I'm sure I'd like Charlize Theron, too if I ever met her. I hear good things).

You may think are all my profile pictures are "FGASs" (That's Fat Girl Angle Shots – pictures from angles that slim and flatter the girl. Because men only ever use candid, brutally-lit, unfiltered pics). But I think they're a fair representation. And I'm pretty upfront about who I am: I describe myself as a woman who loves pizza, and include links to myInstagram page, where I have the #everybodysready bikini shots I took on my 30th birthday. I like to think I come across as a confident, happy woman. But could this be the very reason you have targeted me? Did you see me and think “She has far too high an opinion of herself, she needs bringing down a peg or two”? I have to ask - we all know the internet is a dangerous place to be a woman with opinions (I discovered this first hand when I ventured a response to those obnoxious bloody adverts).

I showed your message to friends who expressed shock, horror, embarrassment on your behalf, and a desire to cause you actual physical harm. One male friend told me I have a lovely bottom “if unmarriageable”. I laughed with them. Then I cried in my Slimming World group. That's right! Slimming World! You see, I already KNOW that I'm overweight. I can tell you exactly how overweight I am – 20 pounds. I've already lost 15, and I've a stone and a half to go. I'm happy with that. I will get rid of it, safely and healthily. Does that mean that I can't love and enjoy my body now? F*** no.

I'll never see or hear from you again (you may feel the need to respond to this blog. Please don't. There's nothing you can say that will make me think that you're not a disgrace to your gender).

What truly concerns me, the real reason I'm responding so publicly, is the fact that you have a 13 year old daughter. A talented illustrator, who collects Manga comics and wants to visit Japan as soon as possible.

I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy, and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her. Praise her intellect, and her creativity. Push her to push herself and to be fearless. Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if (I'll be kind. I'll say “if”.) the time comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I do now.

Simon.
Kiss.
My.
Exquisitely.
Unmarriagable.
Arse.

P.S. “Slip of a girl”? CHRIST ALIVE, that's creepy.

P.P.S. You're not 5'11

PRINT AND MEDIA COVERAGE WORLDWIDE

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FROM MASHABLE, NEW YORK

This woman was body-shamed by a Tinder — and she's fighting back
KATIE DUPERE


Body-shaming in the online dating world isn't a new trend — and that's exactly why we need to talk about it. 

While women on the receiving end of Internet hate are pretty amazing at holding their own, the comments they face are inexcusable. UK native Michelle Thomas knows that firsthand, thanks to a recent date gone bad. Now, she's doing something about it.


In late June, Thomas went on a date with a man she met on dating app Tinder. Drinks turned into dinner, and then an evening spent on the town. It ended with a kiss, and left Thomas thinking of the the experience as a "pleasant evening."

That is, until she received a 400-word, body-shaming text message from her date the following night. He said he adored her and would marry her, if only she were a "slip of a girl." Then, it gets worse: He was afraid his body would fail him if their relationship turned sexual, stating "with all the red-hot lusts of a man and all the failings of a man ... I'm sure of my own body and its needs."

The message, which praised her personality and smarts and wit, reduced her datability down to her body.

At first, Thomas cried. Then, she got angry. That's when a friend encouraged her to publish his message, and a response to it, online. She did, in a blog post that has gone viral over the past week.

In her post, Thomas confronts her date's comments, saying his "tone is saccharine and condescending," and his only objective was clearly to wound her. She goes on to say he "stirred a dormant fear that every woman who was ever a teenage girl has — that it doesn't matter how funny you are, how clever, how kind, how passionate, how loyal, how determined or adventurous or vibrant — if you're a stone overweight, no one will ever find you desirable."

That blog post now has 130,000 views and counting. 

"That's a really clear indicator. That really demonstrates that we need to have this conversation about the power of shamewe need to have this conversation about the power of shameand how many people feel so ashamed of their bodies," Thomas tells Mashable.

Since her letter went viral, Thomas has received "thousands upon thousands" of messages from women who have been body-shamed via online dating, or simply in everyday life. To encourage this conversation to continue, Thomas posted a picture to Instagram including an email address where people could reach her — and people definitely wanted to talk. 

The generic email address shut down almost immediately from being overloaded with messages. She soon replaced it with a new address with its own domain.

Thomas says she has heard from women around the world, from Canada to East Africa to Pakistan. Their messages all echo the same sentiment: Yes, we need to talk about this. And Thomas is making sure it happens for her and for them.

"I've got what I need," she says. "I've got sturdy boots on. I've got my big-girl panties on. I'm rolling up my sleeves. 

I've cracked my knuckles and I'm saying, 'Let's talk. Let's get on with it.'I've cracked my knuckles and I'm saying, 'Let's talk. Let's get on with it.'"

Thomas is hoping to support other women who can relate to her Tinder mishap. The goal, she says, was never to damage her date's reputation; in fact, she's determined to keep his identity anonymous.

"It's not about shaming this guy. It's about standing up to a bully," she says. "The language of that message is the language of manipulation and the language of control."


While Thomas says there is no shame in having preferences when it comes to who you date, the problem is "when you make those preferences someone else's problem."

She maintains that the man she dated could have wished her the best, but state that their chemistry was flat. That, in her opinion, is a normal response after a first date where you aren't that into the person. Sending a 400-word text lamenting about how someone's body makes them undateable, as if it is a problem they need to fix, is not a normal response.

And, if there was any lingering doubt, her body-shaming date has definitely seen the post. In fact, Thomas sent it to him personally the day it was posted.

"He very politely requested that I take it down," she says. "I very politely declined." 

The last contact she had with him was after the post started getting serious press a few days ago — and only then to assure him he wouldn't be identified publicly.

Perhaps the most powerful moment in Thomas' letter is when she cites an unlikely inspiration for penning the response: her date's 13-year-old daughter. In the letter, Thomas writes:

"I want you to encourage your daughter to love, enjoy and care for her body. It belongs to her and only her ... Give her the tools to develop a bomb-proof sense of self-esteem so that if ... the time comes that a small, unhappy man attempts to corrode it, she can respond as I do now."

But she says she also wrote the letter for all the women who have been impacted by body-shaming in its many forms, not only in the online dating sphere. 

"Know that your worth is more than your physical mass," she wants to tell those women. "So much more."

Thomas is determined to continue the conversation around body-shaming, hoping to empower girls with a new-found movement she's calling "Healthy Happy Hot."

"Because if you aim for the first two, the third will come naturally."

an illustrated interpretation
by manfeels park

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Satirical Cartoon Courtesy Manfeels Park
WALES ONLINE
  • Tinder user Michelle Thomas flooded with offers after a date told her she was 'too fat' ... Chicago Tribune Worth official ...walesonline.co.uk: «Tinder user Michelle Thomas flooded ...newstral.com/.../tinder-user-michelle-thomas-flooded-with-offers-after-a-.. walesonline.co.uk on 2015-07-14 23:08. 

MASHABLE NEW YORK
  • This woman was body-shamed by a Tinder date ... - Mashable mashable.com/2015/07/11/tinder-body-shaming/
Michelle Thomas knows about body-shaming firsthand, thanks to a Tinder date gone bad. Now, she's doing something about it.



SO FEMININE UK
  • This Woman's Response To Her Fat-Shaming Tinder Date Is Amazing soFeminine.co.uk - ‎Jul 9, 2015‎
A woman whose Tinder date told her, 'I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality…I can't say the same about your figure' has written the BEST public riposte. In an open letter on her blog, Michelle Thomas, 30, absolutely shut down ...



FORCE PENPALS UK
  • Blogger shares details of disastrous tinder dateforcespenpals.co.uk (blog) - ‎Jul 9, 2015‎
Michelle said that although she was upset by the encounter, she did not let it get her down. In response, she penned a letter of her own, part of which read "You don't have to fancy me. We all have a good friend who we look at ruefully and think 'you ...



HUFFINGTON POST FRANCE
  • Après un rendez-vous Tinder, la réponse géniale de cette femme à celui qui l'épouserait si elle était "plus mince" - Huffington Post France



IJ REVIEW DENMARK
  • Woman Goes on a First Date with Man. What She Never Expects is the Note She ...IJ Review - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎ Michelle Thomas went on a seemingly pleasant date with a man she met online. They had dinner, drinks, and even shared a goodnight kiss. While Michelle didn't find the date to be “earth-shattering,” she wrote on her blog, she by no means anticipated the ...



FUSION USA
  • Michelle Thomas sets fat-shaming Tinder date straightFusion - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎ In today's installment of “Woman goes on Tinder date with man, regrets it immediately,” we meet Michelle Thomas, a London-based blogger who agreed to meet up with a man named “Simon” for a couple of drinks in a pub (because that's what adorable ... http://fusion.net/story/163141/fat-shaming-body-shaming-dating-tinder-response/


HUFFINGTON POST UK
  • Woman Pens Perfect Open Letter To Tinder Date Who Said She Was 'Too Fat To ...Huffington Post UK - ‎Jul 9, 2015‎
A woman has written an open letter to a Tinder date told her she was 'too fat to fancy' - and she's quickly becoming the internet's new body image hero. When Michelle Thomas, 30, returned from her 'fairly standard' date with Simon, who is in his 40s ...


UPROXX AU
  • This Woman Gave The Perfect Reponse To A Tinder Date Who Called Her 'Too ...UPROXX - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
Waitress Michelle Thomas spends her spare time curating other people's stories. After a disastrous encounter with a Tinder date, she finds herself with an unbelievable tale of her own. Michelle recently hit it off with a Tinder match. They met in a pub ...



DAILY LIFE AUSTRALIA
  • This woman wrote the perfect response to a Tinder date who fat-shamed her Daily Life - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
Michelle Thomas wrote a brilliant response to a fat-shaming message from a Tinder date. Photo: Instagram. Ever been on a date with someone, thought they were a fantastic person, but at the end of the night you found you weren't attracted to them in a ... 


WALES ONLINE
  • Cafe manager Michelle Thomas saw her blog go viral when she revealed a man she met online told her she was too fat ...WalesOnline‎ - 10 hours ago  Michelle Thomas' blog post has seen her trumpeted as a feminist hero for standing up to ...



COSMOPOLITON.COM
  • This Woman Expertly Schooled the Tinder Date Who Fat-Shamed Her Cosmopolitan.com (blog) - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
Michelle Thomas does not have time for anyone's fat-shaming bullshit. She recently endured the 21st century's version of bloodletting by live leeches aka the Shitty Dude on Tinder Who Needs to Tell You Why You Aren't Good Enough for Him. Everyone on ... 


STUFF.COM NEW ZEALAND
  • Woman shuts down Tinder date who told her she was too fat in best possible wayStuff.co.nz - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
I ... adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on by someone slimmer." He goes on to detail his fear of impotence. "So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality ...



MANAWATU STANDARD
  • Woman shuts down Tinder date who told her she was too fat in best possible wayManawatu Standard - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
I ... adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on by someone slimmer." He goes on to detail his fear of impotence. "So whilst I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality ...



BUSINESS INSIDER INDIA
  • This woman's open letter to a man who rejected her on Tinder because of her ...Businessinsider India - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
When a man Michelle Thomas met through Tinder passed on a second date because he was looking for "someone slimmer," the blogger penned a sharp-tongued letter that's earned her Internet acclaim. Thomas is a London-based blogger and cafe manager, ... 



SUNDAY WORLD
  • Woman responds brilliantly toTinder date who said she was too big to fancy Sunday World - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
The pair spent a fairly agreeable evening together after hooking up on dating website Tinder. However, the unnamed man the next day sent Michelle Thomas a message to let her know that - while he evidently enjoyed their time together immensely - he was ... 



DAILY MAIL UK
  • Tinder dater Michelle Thomas writes open letter after being told she was TOO FAT Daily Mail - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
Michelle Thomas met a man on Tinder and the pair went for a date on London's South Bank that included drinks in a pub, a meal and then a walk along the Thames. The evening ended with a kiss and the pair headed back to their respective homes. But the ... 



THE SUN
  • Woman dubbed too fat to love by her Tinder date gets epic revenge The Sun (subscription) - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
A WOMAN dubbed too fat to love by her Tinder date has become a viral star - for writing a brilliant open letter to the idiot. Michelle Thomas went on one date with the charmer - known only as Simon - and got a long message to explain his rejection the ...



COSMO UK
  • Awesome woman TOTALLY schools Tinder guy who said he'd marry her if she ...Cosmopolitan UK - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
Michelle Thomas, 30, got a nasty surprise after going on a Tinder date with a 40-year-old man called Simon. The pair went on a date on June 29 and it was nice, but nothing super special. Michelle wrote in a post to her blog: "He bought me dinner. We ...



HUFFINGTON POST UK
  • Tinder DateHuffington Post UK - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
He walked me to the train station, where we kissed. It wasn't earth-shattering, but all in all it was a fairly standard Pleasant Evening. The next day, I received the following message from him (be warned, it gets pretty nasty). Hey Michelle, sorry ...



ITV NEWS UK
  • Woman 'too fat to fancy' hits back at insulting Tinder date in most public way ...ITV News - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
Michelle Thomas went for a night out with her date at a restaurant on London's South Bank. But it didn't go well. Michelle wasn't particularly bothered whether she saw or spoke to her date ever again. He, on the other hand, spoke his mind in a message ...



SOCIAL NEWS DAILY
  • Woman Shuts Down Body-shaming Comment on TinderSocial News Daily - ‎Jul 8, 2015‎
Internet, meet Michelle Thomas. Michelle is sassy lady with a zing in her step. This writer and cafe manager's got that can-do attitude, smoldering Tamara de Lempicka eyes and an undeniable Angelina Jolie pout. 



NEWS.COM.AU
  • Tinder date woman hits back at man who told her she was too fat to dateNEWS.com.au - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
Sounds like a joke, doesn't it? Unfortunately, it's not. It happened to 30-year-old British woman Michelle Thomas, who, after a pleasant Tinder date, received the following message: Fat shamed ... Michelle Thomas was shattered after she received one of ...



NEWS.COM.AU
  • Tight-lipped ... Despite the hurtful words, Michelle Thomas does not intend to ...NEWS.com.au - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
I f — king adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on by someone slimmer. Shallow? It's not meant to be. It's the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing ...



WHITSUNDAY TIMES AUSTRALIA
  • Woman's response to Tinder date who said she was too fatWhitsunday Times - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
I f--king adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer. Shallow? It's not meant to be. It's the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing image ...



DAILY MERCURY UK
  • Woman's response to Tinder date who said she was too fatMackay Daily Mercury - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
I f--king adore you Michelle and I think you're the prettiest looking girl I've ever met. But my mind gets turned on my someone slimmer. Shallow? It's not meant to be. It's the same reaction you get when you read a great author or see an amazing image ...



THE 42
  • This woman wrote a superb response to a Tinder date who said he'd marry her if ...The42 (blog) - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
A WOMAN WHO received a callous note from a Tinder date telling her that he couldn't go out with her because she wasn't slim enough has penned the perfect response online. Michelle Thomas went on a date last week with a man and described the ... 



EVENING STANDARD UK
  • Woman's open letter to Tinder date who told her 'you are too fat to fancy ...Evening Standard - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
A woman's open letter to a Tinder date who told her she was too fat to fancy has gone viral, racking up tens of thousands of views in just days. South Londoner Michelle Thomas, 30, said she has been overwhelmed by the response, which more than 20,000 ... 



IRISH EXAMINER
  • This woman had the best response to the Tinder date from hell | Irish ExaminerIrish Examiner - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
Ciara Flaherty. There are many horror stories when it comes to Tinder dates but we think this one may top them all. Michelle Thomas from London agreed to meet a guy for a date after meeting him through the dating app. And the date itself went alright ...



BREAKING NEWS IRELAND
  • This woman had the best response to the Tinder date from hellBreakingNews.ie - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
There are many horror stories when it comes to Tinder dates but we think this one may top them all. Michelle Thomas from London agreed to go out with a guy after meeting him through the dating app. And the date itself went alright - drinks, dinner, a ...



YAHOO NEWS UK
  • This woman wrote a superb response to a Tinder date who said he'd marry her if ...Yahoo News UK - ‎Jul 7, 2015‎
A WOMAN WHO received a callous note from a Tinder date telling her that he couldn't go out with her because she wasn't slim enough has penned the perfect response online. Michelle Thomas went on a date last week with a man and described the ... 



GLOUCHESTERSHIRE ECHO
  • Woman pens open letter to Tinder date who said 'I adore you but get turned on ...Gloucestershire Echo - ‎Jul 6, 2015‎
A woman has written an open letter to a Tinder date who told her: "'I am hugely turned on by your mind, your face, your personality….. I can't say the same about your figure." Michelle Thomas, 30, told the man she had chosen to respond publicly ...



FOX FM AUST
  • The Internet Is Divided Over This Man's Letter Saying His Date Wasn't Slim Enough FoxFM (blog) - ‎Jul 6, 2015‎
It all started when Michelle met Mr Tinder Man in a pub. They had drinks, he bought her dinner, and they took a stroll arm-in-arm on the South Bank. They even kissed at the train station. Michelle describes the date as not quite earth-shattering, “but ..




H. POST ITALY
  • La blogger Michelle Thomas risponde a un uomo ...www.huffingtonpost.it/.../michelle-thomas-rifiutata-tro...
4 days ago - La blogger Michelle Thomas risponde a un uomo conosciuto su Tinder. "Non puoi uscire con me perché sono troppo grassa? Volevi solo ...




PANORAMA GERMANY

  • Diese Frau wurde von ihrem Tinder-Date abserviert ... - Focuswww.focus.de › Panorama › Aus aller Welt 
18 hours ago - Für ein zweites Date war eine Frau in den USA ihrem Date zu dick. Das ließ ... Michelle Thomas/Instagram Michelle Thomas wurde von ihrem ...



SHOW & TELL AUSTRALIA

  • Michelle Thomas - BEST response to Tinder date from HELL ...showandtellonline.com.au/.../michelle-thomas-best-response-to-tinder-da... 4 days ago - British woman Michelle Thomas recently found herself out of a long term relationship and so decided to give the whole Tinder thing a go.



2DAYFM AUSTRALIA
  • The Internet Is Divided Over This Man's Letter Saying His ...www.2dayfm.com.au/.../the-internet-is-divided-over-this-mans-letter-say.. 5 days ago - Michelle Thomas has penned an open letter to the man she met on Tinderwho said he was in love with her mind, face and personality… but ...



M2 WOMAN NEW ZEALAND
  • Girl Dismantles her Demeaning Tinder Date - M2womanwww.m2woman.co.nz/girl-dismantles-her-demeaning-tinder-date 3 days ago - Michelle Thomas details in her blog a date that went well enough, just another nice night out but ... Michelle-Thomas-Tinder-Everybody's-ready.


HELLO GIGGLES USA
  • After being weight-shamed by a Tinder date, this woman ...hellogiggles.com/body-shamed-tinder/ 2 days ago - And so has Michelle Thomas, a UK-based blogger who recently shared a painful Tinder experience. But the cool thing about Thomas?


ESILO BRAZIL
  • Blogueira responde críticas de paquera do Tinder sobre seu ...https://estilo.catracalivre.com.br/.../blogueira-responde.. 3 days ago - A blogueira e gerente de um café em Londres, Michelle Thomas, 30 anos ... Blogueira responde críticas de paquera do Tinder sobre seu corpo. https://estilo.catracalivre.com.br/comportamento/blogueira-responde-criticas-de-paquera-do-tinder-sobre-seu-corpo/


ALO SERBIA
  • Šutnuo je fenomenalnu devojku jer je punačka, njen ...www.24sata.rs/sutnuo-je-fenomenalnu-devojku-jer-je-...4 days ago - Mišel Tomas (30) je izašla na dejt s muškarcem kojeg je upoznala preko Tindera. Iako oduševljen ... Srbija · Svet · Šou · Sport · Prijatelji 24sata · Lifestyle ... Šutnuo je fenomenalnu devojku jer je punačka, njen odgovor mu je pao GORE OD ŠAMARA. 08.07.2015. ..... Nekretnine.rs - Oglasi za nekretnine.  (Translation: He kicked a phenomenal because it is a plump girl, her response to him has fallen up from Samara).




DAILY MAIL UK OPINION


  • 'Feminist hero who publicly shamed Tinder date ... - Daily Mailwww.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-3156155/Feminist-hero-publicly-shame...4 hours ago - 'Feminist hero who publicly shamed Tinder date for voicing his body-type preference is a hypocrite. ... was somehow 'body shaming' and 'objectifying' the female form, but, ... 


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  • La blogger Michelle Thomas risponde a un uomo conosciuto su ...L'Huffington Post - ‎08 lug 2015‎
"Ti adoro, penso che tu sia una delle ragazze più belle che io abbia mai conosciuto. Ma sto cercando una persona più magra di te": con queste parole Michelle Thomas, blogger trentenne e residente nel sud di Londra, è stata scaricata da un uomo ...

  • «Non sei abbastanza magra per eccitarmi»LetteraDonna - ‎08 lug 2015‎
«Non sei abbastanza magra per eccitarmi». Questo il senso delle parole con cui Michelle Thomas è stata scaricata da un uomo conosciuto su Tinder. Purtroppo per lui, Michelle è anche una blogger. Che ha deciso di mettere tutto online. Il post ...

  • Londra, rifiutata perché grassa: si vendica su internetCorriere Quotidiano - ‎09 lug 2015‎
Quando un rifiuto scatena la vendetta in rete. È quanto è accaduto in Inghilterra e la protagonista si chiama Michelle Thomas. La ragazza ha pensato bene di vendicarsi di uno spasimante che l'aveva rifiutata solo perché grassa. I due si erano ...

  • Rifiutata da un uomo: “Non vado con una grassa”DirettaNews.it - ‎09 lug 2015‎
La blogger Michelle Thomas del sud di Londra ha conosciuto un uomo su Tinder, un sito che consente di conoscere persone nuove, dove ci si scambia foto e si interagisce attraverso chat. I due si sono dati un appuntamento: si sono trovati in un pub. 

  • Tinder, la rivincita della blogger silurata perché non abbastanza ...Magazine delle donne - ‎09 lug 2015‎
Michelle Thomas blogger di Londra è stata silurata da un uomo conosciuto su Tinder che dopo un appuntamento le ha scritto "sto cercando una persona più magra di te": dopo le lacrime ha pubblicato la lunga ("sadica") lettera di lui che, in poche ore, ... 

  • Rifiutata da un uomo perché “troppo grassa”: la sua vendetta sul webSCR News - ‎08 lug 2015‎
Conosce un uomo in chat su Tinder, ma lui la rifiuta perché è troppo grassa ed il suo corpo non lo eccita. L'inglese Michelle Thomas non poteva credere a ciò che l'uomo le stava dicendo. Si è sentita umiliata e distrutta, ma nonostante ciò ha avuto la ...

  • Après un rendez-vous Tinder, la réponse géniale de cette femme à ...Le Huffington Post - ‎9 juil. 2015‎
... telles qu'elles sont. Michelle Thomas a par ailleurs participé au hashtag #everybodysready (tout le monde est prêt), inventé pour railler les publicités montrant de jeunes femmes minces à l'extrême en maillot de bain et prêtes pour se montrer sur ...

  • Jugée pas assez mince par son rencard, elle lui répondaufeminin.com - ‎8 juil. 2015‎
La semaine dernière, Michelle Thomas a eu un rendez-vous avec un homme rencontré sur l'application Tinder. Si tout semblait s'être bien passé, la jeune femme a vite déchanté lorsqu'elle a reçu un message le lendemain dans lequel son rencard lui avouait ... 


  • Voici la réponse géniale de Michelle au mec rencontré sur Tinder ...RTL info - ‎9 juil. 2015‎
Michelle Thomas est une jeune femme de 30 ans qui tient un blog. Elle est également à la recherche de l'amour et utilise l'application Tinder pour trouver le prince charmant. Mais l'un de ses derniers rencards ne l'était pas (charmant). Elle pensait ...


  • Tinder: «Si tu étais plus mince, je t'épouserais»Femina - ‎9 juil. 2015‎
Michelle Thomas était plutôt optimiste une fois son rencard avec Simon terminé. Quelques verres, un restaurant et un baiser échangé auraient pu être les prémisses d'une belle relation. Mais le lendemain, la jeune femme déchante. Elle reçoit un message ...

  • Tinder : après un rendez-vous, il la largue à cause de son poids, elle ...Femme Actuelle - ‎9 juil. 2015‎
C'est l'histoire d'un Tinder date qui a tourné au Tinder Gate. Après un rendez-vous qui s'était plutôt bien passé, Michelle Thomas reçoit un message de son prétendant. L'homme lui avoue être profondément dérangé par son poids. La réponse poignante de ... 

  • Tinder : la réponse cinglante d'une Britannique au bodyshamingElle - ‎8 juil. 2015‎
C'est une histoire qui commence de façon banale. Michelle Thomas, une Londonienne de 30 ans, rencontre un homme de 40 ans sur l'application Tinder. Ils se parlent, se plaisent et finissent par fixer un rendez-vous pour se rencontrer. Ils passent une ...

  • Après un rencard Tinder, elle répond à celui qui l'épouserait si elle ...Terrafemina - ‎10 juil. 2015‎
Après quelques verres, un restaurant et un baiser échangé, la Londonienne Michelle Thomas était satisfaite de sa soirée. Mais ça, c'était avant qu'elle reçoive, le lendemain, un odieux message de l'homme en question, un certain Simon d'une quarantaine ... 

  • Tinder : Une blogueuse répond à l'homme qui refusait de la revoir à ...June News - ‎7 juil. 2015‎
Pour Michelle Thomas, tout commence pour le mieux. Elle rencontre un jeune homme (qu'elle appellera Simon). Ils dînent ensemble, vont boire une verre, font une petite balade et s'embrassent. Tout aurait pu être parfait si le jeune homme n'avait pas ...

  • La réponse géniale d'une jeune femme après un rendez-vous ...Ohmymag - ‎9 juil. 2015‎
C'est sur son blog que Michelle Thomas, 30 ans, a posté une lettre ouverte où elle explique ce qui lui est arrivé. Alors qu'elle fait la connaissance d'un dénommé Simon sur l'application Tinder, ils décident de se rencontrer quelques semaines plus tard.

  • „Ich hatte etwas Schlankeres im Sinn“: Bloggerin Michelle Thomas gibt miesem ...Hamburger Morgenpost - ‎08.07.2015‎
Keine Frage, viele Menschen probieren Blind-Dates aus und ärgern sich hinterher schwarz. Doch die Abfuhr, die sich die Britin Michelle Thomas nach einer Verabredung mit einer Tinder-Bekanntschaft anhören musste, erzürnt gerade unzählige Menschen ... 

  • „Ich hatte an etwas Schlankes gedacht“: So reagiert Bloggerin Michelle auf die ...Kölner Stadt-Anzeiger - ‎10.07.2015‎
Doch die Erfahrung, die die Britin Michelle Thomas nach einer Verabredung mit einer Tinder-Bekanntschaft machen musste, erzürnt gerade Menschen auf der ganzen Welt. Die Café-Managerin war eigentlich gar nicht sonderlich interessiert daran, den Mann ... 

  • „Ich hatte Schlankes im Sinn“: Bloggerin Michelles Reaktion auf verletzende ...Frankfurter Rundschau - ‎10.07.2015‎
Nein, keine Frau möchte solche Worte über ihren Körper lesen oder hören. Doch Bloggerin Michelle Thomas wollte die Beleidigung nicht kommentarlos auf sich sitzen lassen und entschied sie sich, ihrem Tinder-Date eine passende Antwort zu schreiben. 

  • Tinder-Absage: "Leider zu dick"? Diese Frau hat die perfekte Antwort auf diese ...Brigitte.de - ‎10.07.2015‎
Die Frau auf diesem Foto heißt Michelle Thomas, wohnt in England und ist angeblich viel zu dick, um für eine Beziehung in Frage zu kommen. Absurd? Klar, aber genau diese Antwort bekam sie nach einem unspektakulären Tinder-Date. Michelle traf sich mit ... 

  • Ein Mann nennt sie "zu fett" - das ist ihre schlagfertige Reaktion!gofeminin.de - ‎09.07.2015‎
Ja, wenn der Korb in Form von einer 9-Absatz-langen Email kommt, in der man als "zu fett" bezeichnet wird. Genau so erging es nämlich Michelle Thomas, einer 30-jährigen Londonerin. Über die Dating-App 'Tinder' verabredete sie sich für ein Date mit ...

  • Diese Frau hat die perfekte Antwort auf Kritik an ihrer Figurtypischich.at - ‎09.07.2015‎
Am Tag nach ihrem Tinder-Date mit Simon bekommt die 30-jährige Michelle Thomas von ihm eine Nachricht von wegen es war sehr schön, es hat ihn sehr gefreut, aber sie sei ihm zu fett. Das ist ihre Antwort.

  • Conosce un uomo su Tinder, ma viene respinta ​perché 'troppo ...Leggo.it - ‎06 lug 2015‎
Conosce un uomo su Tinder ma poi viene rifiutata perché troppo grassa. Michelle Thomas si è vendicata scrivendo un blog in cui elenza tutti i modi in cui una donna non dovrebbe essere trattata. I due si sono incontrati i un pub, come riporta il Mirror ...

  • L'uomo conosciuto su Tinder la respinge perché grassa, lei si ...Donna Fanpage - ‎06 lug 2015‎
Michelle Thomas è una ragazza londinese, di recente ha conosciuto un uomo su Tinder, ma dopo averlo incontrato è rimasta senza parole di fronte al suo atteggiamento. L'uomo infatti l'ha rifiutata perché la considerava troppo grassa per cominciare una ... 

  • "Ti sposerei ma sei troppo grassa, non mi ecciti": lei si vendica cosìSoloGossip.it - ‎07 lug 2015‎
LONDRA – Michelle Thomas pensava di aver trovato l'amore su Tinder. Ma quando ha incontrato l'uomo conosciuto in rete, quest'ultimo le ha spezzato il cuore. “Sei fantastica e ti sposerei anche subito – le ha detto lui dopo il loro primo appuntamento ...

  • Vrouw reageert briljant op afwijzing Tinder-dateMetronieuws.nl-7 Jul 2015
De 30-jarige Michelle Thomas ontmoette haar droomman op Tinder, maar werd na een romantische date keihard afgewezen. De reden

  • Woman Confronts Obnoxious Guy Who Fat-Shamed Her After Their ...The Stir-10 Jul 201
Take 30-year-old Michelle Thomas, a blogger and cafe manager in London, who recently had that experience. Michelle met a guy on Tinder, then spent an ...

  • Woman's response to Tinder date who said she was too fat
SHE was sent a horrible message by a man she went on a Tinder date with last week - but instead of letting the experience destroy her self esteem, she turned it into an opportunity to call out sexist body-shaming and encourage women to celebrate their ..


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  • Resposta de britânica a paquera do Tinder que disse que procurava ...Marie Claire-8 Jul 2015
  • Ele pertence a ela e só a ela”, diz Michelle Thomas em mensagem ... no Tinder que disse que ela era muito gorda para os padrões dele.
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  • Blog.nl (Blog) Deze vrouw had de beste reactie toen een Tinder-date haar dumpte ...newsmonkey-11 Jul 2015
  • De Britse Michelle Thomas ging vorige week op Tinder-date. Drankjes werden diner, diner werd een avond uit in de stad en de avond eindigde ...
  • Vrouw doet Rosie the Rivetertje na beledigende date log.nl (Blog)-22 hours agoExplore in depth  (3 more articles)
  • Răspunsul unei femei pentru un bărbat care i-a spus că e grasăLibertatea-7 hours ago Michelle Thomas a refuzat să se lase afectată de remarcile bărbatului pe care l-a cunoscut pe Tinder și i-a dat un răspuns care a făcut-o ...
  • A estas famosas las criticaron por su sobrepeso y así respondieronhttp://www.metroecuador.com.ec (Comunicado de prensa)-6 Jul 201
  • Ella es Michelle Thomas. Tiene 30 años, es mamá y es toda una preciosidad. Pero esto no lo vio un hombre en Tinder con el que salió, que se llama Simon.
  • Vrouw wordt afgewezen na Tinder-date, maar slaat geniaal terugHet Nieuwsblad-8 Jul 201
  • De dertigjarige Michelle Thomas uit Londen leek met Simon eindelijk een goede match gevonden te hebben op Tinder. Ze sprak met hem af 
  • Vrouw reageert geniaal op Tinder-afwijzi Metro-8 Jul 2015
  • Tinder-Date sagt: Sie ist zu "fett" zum DatenWunderweib-9 Jul 201
  • Dann hör dir doch die Geschichte der 30-jährigen Michelle Thomas an. ... auch selbstbewusst auf der Dating-Plattform Tinder zu präsentieren.
  • Partenerul ei i-a spus ca e frumoasa si inteligenta, dar prea grasa ...Ziua News-8 Jul 2015
  • Michelle Thomas si partenerul ei au iesit la cina, iar la final el a ... desi Michelle este o femeie frumoasa, inteligenta si amuzanta, este prea .
  • Tην απέρριψε επειδή ήταν παχουλή και εκείνη του έδωσε την πιο ...Queen.gr-8 Jul 201 Που λέτε, η Michelle Thomas είναι μία νεαρή γυναίκα, η οποία δηλώνει ... συνομιλιών, βγήκε ραντεβού με έναν τύπο που γνώρισε μέσω Tinder
  • 遭約會男羞辱「無法認同妳的體重」 英女公開漂亮回擊 ETtoday-7 Jul 2015 根據《都市報》報導,英國30歲女子托馬斯(Michelle Thomas)先前透過交友軟體「Tinder」和40歲男子西蒙(Simon)搭上線,兩人相談甚歡進而展開 ...
  • Британка запустила кампанию, призывающую полюбить ...www.wonderzine.com/wonderzine/life/news/214461-... Translate this page «Британка запустила кампанию, призывающую полюбить свое тело» в потоке «Новости» (Новости, Жизнь, Tinder) — Wonderzine на сайте Wonderzine.
  • Michelle (30) ble vektdumpet: Tinder-daten sa hun var ... - TV2www.tv2.no/a/71558521 day ago - Søk på tv2.no: Sumo · Video · Sport · Underholdning · Storm .... Michelle (30) ble vektdumpet: Tinder-daten sa hun var for tykk til å elskes ...


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